5 Things to Try if You're New to BDSM

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Let me guess, you watched 50 Shades of Grey pretty recently and thought about what an adventurous sex life Anastasia and Mr Grey have? I mean, that is taking BDSM to the extreme, but I guess everyone needs to start somewhere.



It can be pretty daunting going into BDSM, and your partner might be a little taken back by the proposition of a new fetish, but it definitely is worth bringing it up if this is something that you’re interested in doing.

Of course, if you’re not in a relationship and this is still something that you’d want to try out, then try websites such as My BDSM Hookups where you can meet likeminded individuals. You’ll be able to let them know everything that you want to try out and then meet up for a bit of BDSM fun.
If you’re new to BDSM, here are just 10 things that you should consider when starting out. Obviously, the more you do and the more you get into it, the more extreme it can get:

1.      Hair Pulling
Hair pulling is a good start as it is easy and doesn’t require you to spend any money on toys. Plus, you’ll be able to feel a bit of pain without going to the full extreme.

2.      Light Spanking
Did you know that ‘spanking’ is one of the most common searched terms on the likes of PornHub? This is something that both men and women get turned on by and is a good start to BDSM. Of course, these spanks can get harder as time goes on, and you can even push the limits by purchasing whips in Ann Summers.

3.      Aggressive Language
A lot of people just get the job done and don’t really speak during their foreplay or sex, which is fair enough. However, some people do like the occasional dirty talk (uh it makes me cringe, but each to their own). A lot of BDSM beginners should incorporate aggressive language into their sex routine, with words such as ‘slut’, ‘daddy’ and ‘fuck’. However, ensure that these words are pre-negotiated as some girls may get seriously offended mid-job if you call them a ‘dirty little whore’.

4.      Tying Up with a Scarf
Bondage is a big part to BDSM and while you can buy fun things to tie each other up from the likes of LoveHoney and Ann Summers, you may as well start with something free and available in your house, such as a scarf. As you don’t know whether you even like this stuff, use a scarf to tie up yours, or your partners arms to the bedpost. Plus, scarves can’t really do real damage to you or the bed, in comparison to rope, which can burn you. 

 Incorporating Sir or Madam
If you’re into mistress dating or dating someone with authority, then incorporating the words Sir or Madam will help set the tone and allow you to establish roles, right from the beginning. It will make either you, or them, feel like the boss.

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